In speaking with friends, I realize that many do not understand the concept of Cock Worship. It is more than just oral sex. It is more than just performing for your Dom. In speaking with gentleminx about the topic of Cock Worship, she stated:
"but.. "cock worship".. to me.. while it does involve similar physical actions.. as a blowjob or oral sex... it also involves so much more... for example... bringing intense pleasure... to One i adore... His pleasure... multiplying mine... also..the feeling of submission... the kneeling before Him, perhaps having Him stand over me... also.. add an intensely pleasurable aspect for me....and.. of course.. the intimacy... of cock worship"... and.. s a major element for me... is... "that... all the love, all the passion, the need i have to please and serve... Him... in this one act... all of that... comes together..."
This pleasure in serving that gentleminx talks about is the reward to the submissive for performing Cock Worship with grace and beauty.
What does the Dom receive from Cock Worship? The intense pleasure he receives not only from your actions but from your submission. There are many ways to Worship a Cock, just as there are many different Dom’s. The basic premise of the ritual is the same though. I will discuss the "psychological aspects" of Cock Worship and then give some examples from people I have talked to.
Cock Worshiping is usually done with the submissive on her knees, hands tied behind her back, (although some like the hands on the Cock and would desire them to be free, so she may be ordered to place her hands behind her back until they are desired by the Dom.) The Dom may stand over the submissive, giving her the feeling of being small and of him being powerful. The Dom may be dressed or undressed. I have known the joy of releasing a cock from a pair of jeans with my teeth. The Dom may state something to the effect of "May the Worship begin" which will inform the submissive that she is to Worship and Honor the Dom’s Cock. Or the Dom may just grab the submissive’s hair and begin the ritual.
The art of the ritual is the dance of joy that the submissive performs, pouring out every thread of love and desire she has for her Dom into her Cock Worshiping. Speaking clearly to the Cock...only having eyes for the Cock...the submissive quietly (or loudly as the Dom prefers) speaks of her love of the Cock. The honor she has for it, the pleasure she derives from it, and the happiness she feels when her body is used to please it. Recognize the Cock for what it is, that which gives you the gift of cum, the gift of pleasure, and the gift of being able to please the Dom through his Cock.
The head space that the submissive is in is one of directing all her energy to one part of her Dom. In being in a bound and kneeling position, she is at his will. In him standing over her, he is all powerful. This is a dance of giving and receiving. Each knowing their part and each melding as the ritual continues. For the submissive, it is a freeing time for her. The ability to voice all that she feels about her Dom and his Cock. The feeling of giving all of herself for his joy and pleasure.
If the Dom is one who enjoys the art of begging, he may stand just out of your reach while you are beginning the Worship. As your worship continues, you will begin begging for the gift of his Cock. Below are gentleminx's ideas on begging:
"begging should bare one's soul. begging should reveal one's desire... be it.. physical, mental, emotional and even spiritual.. (as in the connection between the two)... begging should reveal one's soul level need for what the Master/Mistress has to offer... begging is NOT about being in control.... begging is about the beauty of revealing all of one's desires for what the Master/Mistress has to offer. and.. it should be that... deep.. that total.. and that complete.."
The submissive will beg for permission to smell it, taste it, feel it against her cheeks, to honor it with her mouth and tongue. The Dom may grant her desires or not as he chooses. Once the submissive is granted permission to approach the Cock with her mouth, the second stage of the dance begins.
The act of fellatio is as varied as the Dom's and submissives who will read this. Each Dom will have his likes and dislikes, as each submissive will have her limits. I have included a link to a site that has a very instructive article on the pleasures of fellatio that some might not be aware of. http://tutorial.dreamhost.com/fell.htm
In being granted permission to approach the Cock, the submissive will do so with grace and honor, recognizing the gift that she has received. The Dom may set the pace for the Worship by allowing only a smell of the Cock first, or the feel of it against your cheek. You will speak of the joy that fills your soul as you take each gift. Smelling deeply of its scent and then speaking of the pleasure you receive from it. Leaning your cheek against it, straining to have it close to you. Smiling at the pleasure of being close to it brings you.
Once you have received the gift of taste, approach the Cock with reverence. Do not just suck it down your throat, unless your Dom has grabbed your hair and rammed it in himself. Use your tongue, your breath, you lips to explore every inch of the Cock, getting every sense filled as you Worship the Cock. If you visit the site above, they point out all the little places that feel "oh so good" for the Cock. Remember, this Worship is for the honor of the Cock. You want to please it greatly in all that you do. Although, many Doms enjoy having their balls and anus attended to during oral sex, this is not the time to include them in your Worship.
After a time your Dom may feel the need of release and will direct you to suck on his Cock. Even in this event, which most have done many times, you will approach the Cock differently. The submissive will be feeling heady at this point, all the love energy that she held in her soul has been passed on to the Cock. In taking it in your mouth, use all of your mouth; tongue, insides of your cheek, the roof of your mouth, all that is available to you to please this Cock. Some submissives may have a limit of not deep-throating, but if this is not a limit, now is definitely the time to do it.
The Dom will decide when and where he will give the submissive the gift of his cum. The submissive will accept this gift with grace. Once the Dom has completed his task and has deposited his cum, the submissive may be ordered to clean the Cock. This is the end ritual for the submissive. You will ever so gently and ever so kindly lick the hot Cock until he is clean. You may wish to kiss the head and thank it for the pleasure that you derived by Worshiping him this day. Then you will bow your head and continue to kneel until you are released by the Dom. If your hands are untied and not on your back, place them there as you bow.
The Dom will direct the sub as to what he desires in Cock Worshiping. If you are with a Dom that you have not discussed this issue with, I would suggest that you discuss it before you offer this service to him. Some Doms will use the ritual of Cock Worship as a learning tool and will teach you while you are performing the ritual to his desire. If your Dom is this way, then there are different ways of punishing a submissive for not completing the ritual to the Dom’s satisfaction.
There are many variations to the dance, although the outcome is always the same. Total submission by the sub who knows her part in the dance is to please the Dom with her love and admiration of his Cock. To impart to him through her words and actions the love that she carries in her soul for him. In imparting this warmth and service of her love, she will please her Dom. Cock Worship is not easily done with satisfaction with those who do not share a love and trust bond. The Dom knows that his part in the dance is to offer the submissive the opportunity to Worship him through his Cock. To present her with the ability to voice her love and respect for him.
I would also like to state that there are some submissives who are uncomfortable with the act of fellatio and will need another ritual to perform for her Dom that will give her the same opportunities to Worship him. A loving and respectful Dom will understand this and will work with the submissive to find an alternative service that she may perform.
In speaking with Doms about the issue of Cock Worship, I have added some ideas that they stated they have used in the art of Cock Worship.
One I know that uses the ritual as a learning tool will spank the submissive with his bare hand on her ass if she does not complete the stated task that he has put before her. While another will not give his submissive any directives, wanting from her the Worship she desires to present to him, and rewarding her accordingly.
Another will use denial as a learning tool. If he feels that the submissive has not earned his gift of cum with her Worship, he will step back and masturbate on the floor, allowing her to watch, ordering her to watch, the waste of his gift. If she is humble in her punishment, he will allow her to lick up the cum; if she is not humble to his satisfaction, she must get a rag and clean the floor with it.
One Dom wants his submissive to be fully aware of the pleasure that he is receiving while her pleasure must be controlled, and will fill her with a vibrator and check her wetness as she Worships his Cock. Not allowing her to cum until he is satisfied the ritual is totally complete. While another will allow the submissive all of her feelings, including having an orgasm while she is pleasing him.
As you can see, there are many variations to Cock Worship. It is a ritual that many find very pleasing and may use it as a bonding tool for the Dom/submissive. One couple that I know have a special collar and when the Dom places it on her neck, she is instantly in position to Worship his Cock. Knowing by the placement of the collar the needs and desires of her Dom. Rituals are important in some relationships and Cock Worshiping is a ritual that will bring pleasure to both the Dom and his submissive.
By lilith_sub
